(tw: child abuse/abuse apologism)
Hitting children is wrong. Full stop.
If you can’t think of a better way to discipline a child, a tiny human who is smaller than you, you need to re-evaluate your approach.
There is NOTHING that a child, who is on the losing end of the power imbalance, can do that warrants striking them. Ever.
Children are an oppressed class of humans. They have no rights, very little protections, and they are among the most vulnerable. Many adults even argue that they don’t have the right to exist in public (which is a very anti-woman argument, but I digress). They are not property, they are people. Full human beings who are looking to you for guidance. You do not have a right to hit another human. It is illegal to strike another adult, so why is it OK to hit a child?
I will not argue with people who justify it. Ever. I have nothing to say to you.
There are some things in this world that are just too fucked up. Child abuse apologizm is one of them.
Thank you, thank you, thank you.
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tw for following text
Yo, I’m saying this as a PoC: my momma hit me when I was little. Often. With shoes, like latina moms stereotypically did, except they were high heels bc my momma has worked in an office for years. She did it because she loves me, and that’s how she was treated, but it still fucked me up. It gave me some fucked up ideas on subservience and keeping quiet and, at 22, I’m still recovering. I’m still fucking scared shitless of her to this day, and not in any kind of healthy way. I’m not mad at her. There’s no point. I love her to bits and we get along well now, when we don’t fight. We’re friends.
But I don’t think anyone should do that to their kid. Children look up to adults as gods, and when your gods hurt you like that, it really destroys the way you look at things. There are much better forms of punishment out there.
That kind of violence, the kind you can’t get away from, in your formative years— that’s not what you should need to “toughen you up.” There are better ways.
(via cabbage-stew)
